Monthly Archives: August 2014

N is for now

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We have very few family photos that aren’t selfies, and I particularly love this one. It was taken this week, on the afternoon of our second third wedding anniversary, just before we headed out for a romantic dinner for three.

Earlier in the day Leigh had surprised me with a few hours in a nearby spa with massages and facials and pedicures for us both – hence the general aura of relaxation and polishedness we’re exuding.

In a summer of adventures, of looking forward and looking back, it was a moment of savouring the now. Our little man is growing up so fast – I know we’ll look back on this snapshot in another year and he’ll seem so small, and already I keep catching myself wondering where my baby’s gone. Which makes it all the more important to remember, in amidst the memories and the plans, to focus on our very special present.

N is for now.

 

Joining in with The Alphabet Photography Project over at PODcast.

Brmm brmm baby

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Last night was our last night in Barcelona. And as well as saying goodbye to our wonderful friends who we see far too rarely for my liking, Arthur had to say goodbye to his favourite new toy.

Every time we went over to our friends’ house Arthur would gravitate towards the girls’ toy pram and baby Clara. He liked to give her cuddles, but also I think the pram was an extension of his growing love of anything with wheels – cars, buses, tractors, motorbikes. Accordingly he christened her the brmm brmm baby.

Arthur spent hours pushing her around the living room and terrace, his evident delight both adorable and more than a little bit amusing. He doesn’t have any dolls yet: I’ve been thinking about making him one, and may need to make that a priority now we’re home. I’d like to encourage this nurturing instinct he’s developing, and it would definitely help focus the imaginative play he’s increasingly leaning towards. I guess I’ll need to give him the option of a pram as well as a sling to transport his baby too!

There were lots of brilliant things about this week – standby for a longer post about exploring Barcelona with a toddler – but one of the best bits was watching him play with the two little girls who, through their mum, were really my first introduction to motherhood. They were remarkably patient with him, and very good at sharing their toys – especially the brmm brmm baby.

 

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M is for mummy

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We’ve made the transition this week from ‘mama’ to ‘mummy’. It sounds so much more grown up somehow, but more deliberate too. A definite naming, almost an act of possession: you are mummy, and you are mine.

I am his, too, there is no doubt about it. He has transformed me, consumed me in the best way possible. I was always a little afraid, before he came along, that I would find the presence of my imagined child stifling. That I would no longer be able to be me, to have the time I thought I needed to myself, to do the things I thought I needed to do.

Turns out there was another me lurking somewhere deep inside, waiting to be awakened. This me has different priorities, different values. She’s not so different really, but different enough to deserve the name ‘mummy’. And she does not feel stifled, not at all.

When I wake in the morning and hear him turning our names over in his mouth, articulating the little family that marks his place in the world – ‘mummy, daddy, baby’ – my heart sings. I am his, and he is mine. Together there is little we cannot do.

M is for mummy.

 

Joining in with The Alphabet Photography Project over at PODcast.